The Loop In life: How You Cut Yourself Off From The Monotony Of Life

Another brand new day starts; the sunlight is shining through the small gap of the window, irradiating your face along with the buzzing sound of alarm.

Oh, Yesterday was Tuesday and Today is already Wednesday.

You slowly open your eyes, trying to clarify your vision. You thought you couldn’t handle the excitement for the new possibilities that you may find today, but you are at that time, pretty sure that thought is non-existent, and bet a new day wouldn't surprise you at all.

“Today is Wednesday and i bet this day will be the same as ever. “

Such a melancholy phrase to start the day, isn’t it?

Have you ever felt like, at least a day in one week ratio, like you are trapped in some kind of “Loop”?

You know those times when you find no enjoyment, no excitement in living a life, and all you do is to repeat same old routines like waking up, eating whole grain toast with peanut butter for breakfast, go for 9-5 work, going home, having dinner, and go to bed afterward. Then you fall asleep, and BAM, tomorrow is knocking again on your front door.

You know those times when you have been working day and night, trying to make things right. But you realize you have not made any good progress at all. Plus, you are not getting the results you desire. It is frustrating, isn’t it?

Then you realized you have not made any profound progress as a human being, that it starts to make an impact on your self-esteem. And to make it even worse, you begin to compare yourself with your friends’ achievements which are gloriously shared all over the social media.

You start losing your purposes, reasons, you start going off the track, you start seeking for that sweet little distraction, just whatever they are just to keep you off from thinking too much. Now that all those distraction wore off, you look back on the time lost, and you start regret it so much that you begin to drown yourself in black abyss of depression. Then you wake up in the morning just to find yourself muttering:

“Today is Thursday and I bet this day will be the same as ever. “

So the loop goes on and on and on… And at some point, you are finally conscious that you are just a hamster running around endlessly on the wheel.

Well yes, I have my own fair share of infinite loops. Whenever I feel like I am moving on to nowhere, I started thinking too much, and frustration sets in silently through the back door of my head. I didn’t even know anymore where to go. I lost the direction, I lost the will, and moreover, I lost the purpose.

Now, what are you gonna do to break yourself out from the infinite loop? I perfectly understand that searching for excuses are the most convenient method to give you temporary pleasure to block off the negative feeling. But again, you are already trapped in the loop of monotony, would you, by all means, add another loop of self-pitying yourself?

“You can have results or excuses, but not both.”

The Infinite Loops: What Causes It

You know you are running as fast as you could, as relentless as you could, as tirelessly as you can be, but why the heck you feel like you are not getting anywhere?

1. Not really making the progress you want

Spend on 24 hours 7 weeks polishing yourself to be a wonderful artist. Why the heck 13 years old girl on Instagram drew much better than me?

2. Relationship after relationship with the wrong person

You think you are good in choosing mates but in reality you aren’t. You keep allowing those toxic people coming onto your lives, wrecking-havoc inside, and leave you broken and a mess. Think about it.

3. Weight issues

The diet always starts tomo….whatever, definitely not today. You think being overweight hinders you for being the best version of yourself. And you start making commitment to go on clean-healthy, but hey is that bacon?

4. Continually choosing to do things you know you shouldn’t

Why in the world do we stick on the jobs we don’t love to do? Because the security of monthly paycheck! After-all I assume we are on that age that we no longer swallow bucks from our parents. To simply be unemployed and seek the job we may POSSIBLY love to have is not easy.

5. Feeling Uninspired

Seeking inspiration from TV, same old shit. Seeking inspiration from Internet, same old shit. Looking yourself on the mirror, same old shit. Where can we find that million dollars idea?

6. Hating your job

Equal to point 4. Not everyone has the luxury to have a job that they are passionate about.

7. Having the repeated unresolved issues in your relationship

Why are your partner continuously grumbling about you forgetting the last year’s anniversary up until now? Why are your friend still mad about his sandwich that you gobbled up years ago?

8. Consistently feeling upset or depressed

I have been a nice kid but why didn’t Santa give anything on Christmas ? I don’t deserve this. I should be having more. Blah blah blah. Just insert some phrases that most of people with “Victim Complex” usually say whenever they are feeling depressed.

9. Staying angry at someone

Staying mad someone for a long time is proven to be hurting your mental health. The resentment, the doubt, the frustration, the disappointment, whatever it is, they will reside in us and will affect biologically.

Getting Off The Loop: This Is How I Do It.

First and foremost, tell yourself:

I am done living life this way. I must make a change

I am breaking up with those monotonies, and I decide that I, will no longer live my life that way. Now that you have detected all the symptoms I provided above, it is time to be on the lookout for them, and break through each and every one of them.

Secondly, do not be submissive.

By breaking out every single of them, we choose NOT to be controlled by them. Life is way too short to remain disappointed of the results after we have been working really hard. Deep inside we knew, that’s not THE ENDINGS we want to settle down, and those aren’t the endings we were meant to have. There is something more fulfilling out there, no matter what.

The key is to decide you are no longer going to tolerate being trapped in any Infinite Loops and get serious about changing things up so you can free yourself.

How not to tolerate the loops:

• To Recognize: To recognize the aspects of life that you think are caught in endless loop.

• To Decide: After you confess or should I say acknowledge that you are trapped in the loop, you have to decide by yourself, do you want to be free or live life that way forever.

• To Believe: Believe in possibility of today, and start doing things differently

As what Einstein stated:

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”.

It is the best time to get creative and start to do things totally different that we have been doing. Yes it is hard. It is, and it will be. But if it isn’t tough. There will be no room for growth. "

So end of my post, stay sharp guys!